Thursday, August 25, 2005

5 MOVIES I CAN'T WAIT FOR....

1. The Brothers Grimm - Comes out this weekend!!! Woohoo:o-) This stars Matt Damon and Heath Ledger and involved a lot of fantasy and action which I always love. I can't go to the movies this weekend (dangit) but I'll definitely be going next weekend.

2. Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire - Yup, I'm a.... what's a good term? Potterhead? Potterphile? Whatever, I've read them all and seen them all and plan to continue the pattern. My whole family is addicted to Rowling's series. Release date is November 18.

3. The Chronicles of Narnia: The Lion the Witch and the Wardrobe - I am soooo excited about this movie. I have seen trailers and I believe this is going to be right up there with Lord of the Rings on production values. It just looks like it is going to be totally fabulous! It is being put out by Disney and they used some of the special effects people from LOTR. My family has read aloud this entire series several times and we can't wait for the movie. Heres hoping it is the first of an entire series. It is coming out December 9.

4. An Unfinished Life - This one is a family drama with Robert Redford and Morgan Freeman. Both of these actors are da bomb! It has to be a good movie. What surprises me is that the female lead is Jennifer Lopez. I don't have a lot of respect for her as an actress yet but I'm hoping she will be up to the honor of the company she is in. It comes out September 9.

5. Beowulf and Grendel - This one is going to be one of those big epics with lots of battle and bloodshed and it is based on a literary masterpiece. What more could you want??? Well, Gerard Butler for one thing. Okay, I'm human. The man makes me drool uncontrollably. I would probably watch him in Lil Abner meets Bart Simpson. I believe it is slated to come out in October. I can't wait.

Wednesday, August 24, 2005

MIXED UP LYRICS (OR) I'M SUCH A GOOBER

An online friend recently posted about a little rhyme that her Mom was singing to herself the day she was born. My Mom used to sing this little rhyme all the time too. The thing is, I had never seen it in print and I just discovered that I had the lyrics ALL wrong. I thought it was just a little nonsense song to amuse little kids. It actually has words that make sense... who knew? Here it is:

Mares eat oats and does eat oats
And little lambs eat ivy....

I thought it was something like this:

Maresy doats and dosey doats
And little lamsey divey....

I am such a goober.

Tuesday, August 16, 2005

LIBERTY-MOUNDS HIGH SCHOOL'S NEWEST SENIOR


By the way, she is wearing a strapless swimsuit (note the lake in the background) she is NOT nude. I've gotten some shocked comments on this photo - I mean, come on folks, if you know Cheyenne (or me) at all....

AN UNSCHOOLER IN PUBLIC SCHOOL

I am a homeschooler. I have been for 13 years. More than that, I am an unschooler. Anyone who has read my previous posts on this blog know that I don't like modern notions about educating children. That said, I must confess that my middle child, Cheyenne, has gone back to public school for her senior year. She started last Thursday.

Cheyenne is a great kid. She is very bright and has done a reasonably good job of educating herself with the books and opportunities I have provided over the years. She went to public for 4th grade out of curiosity and then chose to come home again. She made good grades but not good friends. Meaning she made friends but they weren't very good friends. They didn't seem to know how to be. Since then, as she has gotten older Cheyenne has made some very good friends. She has never had lots of friends but she usually has good friends. She has friends who are Christian, Pagan, atheist, goth, preppy, cowboy, young, middle-aged and old. The only people she really doesn't have any time for are people with no personal integrity or morals.

Now, at 17, Cheyenne has decided that she wants to be a "high school student" before the opportunity to experience that phenomenon has passed her by. We are in a quiet rural area where the school has a pretty good reputation and she has such a good head on her shoulders and strength of character that I have no problem supporting her.

The school has been great about the whole thing. The Superintendant is a super nice guy and when they discovered that we weren't interested in a diploma, they were somewhat bemused but took it in stride and basically allowed us the freedom to sign up for the classes we felt would benefit Cheyenne the most. The counselor was very helpful and friendly. Didn't quite know what to make of us sometimes (like when I told her I never used a textbook for English, Spelling or Reading.)

She has always hated math and needs to do some catching up so she stoically signed up for Algebra. She signed up for Biology Lab cause she has never had an actual "lab" class, although we do tons of experiments. She is in English 4 - more about that class later. She is also taking AP Government I would like to be a mouse in the corner for some of the discussions in that class;o) Chey is pretty opinionated and well-spoken. It'll be interesting to see how the teacher takes that. Her other classes are Choir and Web Design. She is quite computer savvy and a professional singer so those are pretty much coasters for her.

I am sure she will make good grades and be a credit to her family and to the LDS community as well as the unschooling community. I can't guarantee she will get along with every teacher because, as I mentioned, she is not going to keep her mouth shut if the teacher says something she deeply believes is wrong. I was never any good at that myself and I raised her that way on purpose so that will be fine with me. Not that she will go looking for trouble - far from it. She is a peacable girl; just don't push her.

I am really curious to see how the whole social situation plays out. Yes, I am a shameless people watcher and I'm using my child as a guinea pig. Actually, that's not true. She chose this - I am just enjoying the show. I would think it would be interesting to anyone who has wondered about the big "socialization" question. She has been unschooled since birth with the exception of 6 weeks in Kindergarten and the aforementioned 4th grade experiment.

Now, she goes into this school knowing exactly one person. Her friend Jack, from church; the only other LDS kid in the entire school. He is apparently reasonably "popular", a very good student and starter on the football team. There are already rumors that they are "going out". Cheyenne was asked about it by a total stranger;o) Ah high school.

Cheyenne told me that she had an experience in choir the other day that kind of illustrated how different reality was from many people's perceptions about "popularity". The choir is basically made up of two distinct sets of girls. There are no boys in the choir. (It's a very small school.) The first group, Cheyenne says, is made up of girls who would be judged by most to be "social outcasts". They dress "goth" and are somewhat hygenically challenged. Cheyenne hasn't really gotten to know any of them; they may be perfectly nice girls. They are pretty quiet and don't give the teacher any trouble.

The interesting group was the other one. This second group is typical of any recent high school movie. Think "Mean Girls". They are cute, girly types with all the "right" clothes with the "right" labels. The teachers and other students act like these girls are what girls are supposed to be. Now, to look at her, you would probably assume Cheyenne would fit right in with this group but I'm betting that won't happen.

These girls sat by Cheyenne in choir yesterday so she was privy to their conversation. The teacher didn't have them do much that day for some reason so there was more conversation time than usual. These "perfect" specimens talked throughout the class about their sexual lives and birth control and male anatomy. They were obviously well-versed and comfortable with the topic. The idea that a girl might not want to be sexually active in high school was not even thought of. They also talked about ditching school, cheating on tests, drinking and lying to their parents.

Yup, I guess poor Cheyenne is going to be a regular social misfit;o) Darn it.

Actually, she has already found a few kids to hang out with that she likes fine and who don't seem to think it strange at all that she doesn't get drunk or hate her parents. I guess whether or not someone is a "social misfit" depends on the society they are trying to fit into.

Friday, August 12, 2005

THINGS THAT REALLY PISS ME OFF #2 RACISM IS ALIVE AND WELL IN SMALL TOWN OKLAHOMA

My daughter, Cheyenne, has been friends with Brandon and Jessica for about 3 years. Brandon and Jessica are 16 year old twins who are very nice kids and they are black. Actually, they are half-black but they look black. And that's all that matters, right? I mean racism is based on judging someone simply by their appearance. These kids don't dress in gangsta clothes or talk like thugs. They are polite, well-dressed kids.

Brandon and Jessica live in Coweta with their Aunt because of their mother's failing health. Occassionally, I go get them and drive them up to visit their Mom for the weekend. This evening was one of those times. Cheyenne and Harmoni and I went to pick them up and we were all making the one hour drive go by quickly by joking around and making Cheyenne sing when we didn't like what was on the radio.

Then, as we turned up the on-ramp to get on I-75, there were 3 highway patrol cars. I said, "Wow, must be a convention." As we passed them, one of them pulled out behind us and stopped me on the spot. I wasn't speeding, I used my signal, my tag is in order, we were all wearing seatbelts. I am a serious stickler about that. The officer stepped out and motioned me to come back to his vehicle. When I got there he explained that he didn't want to approach the vehicle because of my dog. Those "drug-dealer dogs don't tend to like uniforms." Excuse me? (See my earlier post, "Things That Really Piss Me Off #1.) Yeah, we were off on the wrong foot.

I told him I would like to know what I had done to be stopped and he said I wasn't wearing a seat belt! I told him that I most certainly was and that you would not ever catch me not wearing one. So he radioed on of the other conventioneers and asked if he had witnessed someone not wearing a seat belt in my truck. The other guy (sounding like someone from Deliverance, I swahr) said, "yeah, it was that kid in the front right seat." Officer #1 asked if he had noticed whether the driver was wearing one or not. Officer hick says, "I couldn't tell about him or the girl in the middle cause 'that kid' caught my eye whippin' his around like it was hot - scrambling to put it on when he saw us."

Okay, first, I am not a him - Officer Hick obviously didn't even see me. Second, Brandon was wearing his seat belt from the time I picked him up. All the kids were. My officer doesn't really care about any of that; now he wants to know "who that kid is and where I'm taking him." I explained and he then told me that he was going to give Brandon a seat belt ticket and that he would have to come back to the vehicle to receive it. He practically sniffed Brandon like a drug dog before letting us go.

I told the kids that it was pretty obvious that it was racial. Jessica said she was glad that I had said that 'cause she was thinking it but didn't want to sound paranoid. Brandon quietly said, "I don't think they liked seeing me sitting beside Cheyenne." I believe he was right and isn't that a sad state of affairs. Those kids have to go through every day of their lives wondering whether or not they are being judged by what nice decent kids they are and how hard they work at their school work and their after school jobs or by something a little simpler and a whole lot more complicated - the color of their skin.

Sunday, August 07, 2005

BELLS AMUSEMENT PARK PERFORMANCE PICS

Cheyenne performing at Bells Amusement Park, July 23, 2005

Cameron performing at Bells, July 23, 2005

Dusty later got Cheyenne flowers. How sweet.

Cameron during a break. Just a big kid at heart.

Two very hot and sweaty little sisters. They were having a great time believe it or not;o)

Saturday, August 06, 2005

THE OKLAHOMA AQUARIUM

Cheyenne went on a date to the beautiful new Oklahoma Aquarium in Jenks and they brought us back some beautiful pictures. Of course, I have to share them with my online friends so I'm posting a few of them here. Later (probably tomorrow) I'll post about the crazy times we've had around here for the past couple of weeks. In the meantime, enjoy the pics8O)
If you look carefully, you can see a little seahorse "sitting" on the rock.

Cheyenne is "petting" a starfish! Pretty exciting for an Oklahoma girl;o)

Though you can't tell from the picture, these guys are 3-4 foot across!

Thursday, August 04, 2005

HEY MR. ARNOLD, MAYBE CUSTODIANS SHOULD STICK TO WHAT THEY HAVE THE EXPERIENCE, TOOLS AND SKILLS FOR... SWEEPING

The following is my commentary on a recent article posted on the NEA website. (Don't even get me started on the NEA.) I really have to note that Mr. Arnold is not a teacher, he is a custodian. You read it right, custodian, otherwise known as janitor.

Home Schools Run By Well-Meaning Amateurs
Schools With Good Teachers Are Best-Suited to Shape Young Minds
By Dave Arnold

There's nothing like having the right person with the right experience, skills and tools to accomplish a specific task. Certain jobs are best left to the pros, such as, formal education.


Natalie: Mr. Custodian, sir, may I point out that you have used a dangling modifier?

Mr. C: Don't backtalk me!

Natalie: But, sir, you should have written, "Certain jobs, such as formal education, are better left ...."

Mr. C: Get out of my classroom!!!!

Sorry, public school flashback. That conversation was actually with Mr. York. Now he was a wannabe! He was a coach being forced to teach history and civics.

Okay, if public school teachers are such pros with so many great skills, tools and experience, then why are there so many kids out there who can't even name the fifty states? On a recent reality show, a young woman was asked which was further South, South Dakota or North Carolina. You guessed it, she got it wrong. And on another show which purportedly featured the best of the best (academically speaking), a young man who was quite confident that he was the brightest boy there couldn't name the author of Gone With the Wind. Now, granted, there are some very bright and well-educated kids coming out of the public schools but as a nation, we have not been competitive adacemically. There have been many studies published and articles written and news stories about what the average high school student doesn't know. My only point here is that the majority of people in this country know that public education is failing the students it is designed to serve in some very fundamental ways.

I also have to grant that there are some wonderful and devoted and bright teachers out there. They are the saving grace of our country's future. Thank God for them since the vast majority of American kids are in the public schools. There are also way too many teachers who are just marking time, there are many who really are clueless about child development and there are even a greater number than you might think who don't even like kids. And all of them are laboring in a system so flawed that it really should be scrapped and begun anew. So... who has the right experience, skills and tools to teach our children? In a great number of instances that would be the parents.

There are few homeowners who can tackle every aspect of home repair. A few of us might know carpentry, plumbing and, let’s say, cementing. Others may know about electrical work, tiling and roofing. But hardly anyone can do it all.

Same goes for cars. Not many people have the skills and knowledge to perform all repairs on the family car. Even if they do, they probably don’t own the proper tools. Heck, some people have their hands full just knowing how to drive.


So, why would some parents assume they know enough about every academic subject to home-school their children? You would think that they might leave this -- the shaping of their children’s minds, careers, and futures -- to trained professionals. That is, to those who have worked steadily at their profession for 10, 20, 30 years! Teachers!

Okay, to begin with, if you think there are more than a very small handful of teachers out there who know much of anything about every academic subject I've got some swampland in Arizona.... And if you think you have to know everything about a subject to encourage and facilitate a child learning it, you are just not well informed on the ways that children learn. As Yeats said, "Education is not the filling of a bucket but the lighting of a fire." But, to answer the charge made, my Dad and two of my brothers can and have built entire houses including plumbing and electric, foundation to roof. I've watched 'em (and fetched nails;o) ). Same Dad and at least one of the brothers can take your car apart and put it back together. Consider that men who were able and often required to "do it all" used to be the norm. Micro-specialization is actually a very recent phenomenon.

Secondly, we must consider what exactly is "the specific task" we are supposed to be qualifying for? Don't answer too quickly. I must say that Mr. Arnold actually put it pretty well: "the shaping of [our] children's minds, careers, and futures". I would add their heart and character. Am I leaving that to people who rarely believe in the same values and morals that I do? Would I ever leave a job as vitally important as that to someone who really doesn't get it that human beings learn and retain information better if it is relevent to them or that human beings who are brought up to believe in themselves and to desire to live productive lives and to value knowledge and wisdom will naturally seek after knowledge and wisdom? And finally, why would I even consider leaving the most important task God has given me as a parent - just as Mr. Arnold described it - to someone who doesn't know that Gini works best with quiet but Harmoni really needs to be moving to absorb information. I think not.

The number of parents who could easily send their children to public school but opt for home-schooling instead is on the increase. Several organizations have popped up on the Web to serve these wannabe teachers. These organizations are even running ads on prime time television. After viewing one advertisement, I searched a home school Web site. This site contains some statements that REALLY irritate me!

“It’s not as difficult as it looks.”
The “it” is meant to be “teaching.” Let’s face it, teaching children is difficult even for experienced professionals. Wannabes have no idea.


Well, speaking as a "wannabe" who has been doing "it" for 13 years with five kids, I think I have a pretty good idea how difficult it is. And, ummm, how shall I put this... It's not as difficult as it looks. Consider that the public school powers that be have a vested interest in keeping the general public fooled into believing it is a horrible, nearly impossible task that they sweat through each year. The things that make the task a difficult one are the unrealistic settings and methods, the administration itself with it's true cluelessness and kids who desperately don't want to be there because they are painfully, horrifically bored!

“What about socialization? Forget about it!”

Forget about interacting with others? Are they nuts? Socialization is an important component of getting along in life. You cannot teach it. Children should have the opportunity to interact with others their own age. Without allowing their children to mingle, trade ideas and thoughts with others, these parents are creating social misfits.


I invite the reader to check out my article on socialization previously posted on this site. I will say that for this man to insinuate that parents dedicated enough to homeschool their children would neglect to provide reasonable and safe social interaction opportunities for their kids is insulting and ignorant. I would invite him to attend a gathering of homeschoolers in just about any city in the country and meet some of these kids (or talk to the college recruiters who have found that homeschoolers are very likely to make successful college students) before he goes around calling anyone's children "social misfits". I'd also like to include a couple of pictures at the end of this post to show off a couple of my own little "misfits". I have quite frequently been asked by other parents how I manage to have such close relationships with my kids and how I have gotten three kids through (or almost through) their teenage years without one incident of serious rebellion and without ever, and I mean ever having been called a name by my kids. And no, I very rarely spank. I'll tell you freely that it is due in no small part to the fact that my kids have not had the dubious benefit of public school "socialization".

When I worked for Wal-Mart more than 20 years ago, Sam Walton once told me: “I can teach Wal-Mart associates how to use a computer, calculator, and how to operate like retailers. But I can’t teach them how to be a teammate when they have never been part of any team.”

So I guess Sam never hired anyone who hadn't played organized sports??? My 17 year old daughter is considered a very good employee and is highly valued by her managers where she works. One of her primary complaints about the workplace she recently left is that the people there had no concept of being a "team player". Again, Mr. Arnold is quite arrogant and insulting to suggest that parents are not willing or able to instill in their children the ability to work together for a common goal. I have met many, many homeschooled kids and I assure you the vast majority of homeschoolers are teaching their children exactly that and in a much more relevent and effective manner.

The homeschooled kids that I have been around (and I'm betting I've been around a lot more of 'em than Mr. Arnold has) are generally so much more happy, healthy, well-adjusted and eager to learn than public schooled kids that they are the best proof against the ignorance of people like Mr. Arnold. They say "the proof is in the pudding" and homeschooled pudding most often comes out so wonderful that other people become drawn to their methods. I can't tell you how many people have met my children, found out they were homeschooled and promptly started pumping me for information on how it's done, what the laws are and how to get started. More than a few over the years. Mr. Arnold, thanks ever so much for the input but my little puddings are coming out just fine, thank you.